Awhile ago, I read another blogger write about surrounding herself with only pretty things that made her happy to look at and use daily. In a way it’s the opposite of that thought process that “the good china set” only gets pulled from the cabinet for special occasions; the concept is that every day is a special occasion. It resonated with me and I actually do find myself thinking about what she said every few days, truth be told.
Mostly because I look around at my stuff and none of it includes things that just make me happy to see it or to use it. For example, I don’t even have a special coffee cup that’s really unique and ‘happy’ that I use every day. It’s just what I pull from the cabinet – which is a montage of unremarkable cups I’ve collected over the years. None of my dishes match and truth be told it’s all acrylic anyway since I have three children. Yuck. I want a collection of coffee cups that are brightly colored, hand made looking, unique, or like the one in my post photo. (I have this one saved in my wish list on Amazon and am thinking I may splurge with my gift card and buy it for myself). When someone drinks from one of my cups I want them to think to themselves “this cup is special”. I’ve had that experience myself at friends’ homes before. Sounds silly I know but it means something.
As I think about the prospect of moving next year I find myself panicked a little. We have so much STUFF. And honestly, I don’t like hardly any of it. I find myself begging my husband that we sell almost all of it and start over furnishing the new house. With stuff that makes me happy. Colorful. Cushy. Homey. Hell, even boho-esq. Says the wife of an avid antique old-timer decor addict. *sigh* Thrift store gems, estate sales, Pottery Barn, maybe a bit of CB2 – take me away to your wonderland! A home that says creative and stylish. Bed-pallet porch swings with throw blankets and oversized pillows… oversized chairs and distressed tables. Large stretched canvas family portraits and cool images for artwork on the walls. Nostalgia. Don’t misunderstand, I’m not looking for expensive stuff, I’m looking for stuff with depth and character.
It’s way past time to purge our piece-mill crap. And re-purpose DIY some of the stuff we do have, but my husband for some reason refuses to let me paint or refinish. And he keeps stuff we don’t need or use anymore “just in case”. I take every opportunity to secretly divest of “just in case” items, if for any reason to make room for the other “just in cases”.
I miss my old house. The one we lost during the recession. It was gorgeous. And I liked all of the stuff in it. I was making it my own slowly but surely. But, to keep holding on as long as we could then I was selling off great furniture pieces to make ends meet. We still have a few items from that house but it doesn’t look right in this house. If this was our home I would do SO much with it. But it’s rented, so we won’t invest in upgrades or the like. Plus my husband thinks we should decorate a house around what we have and I’m of the mind you decorate a house around the space of the house. *sigh*
These discussions about what each of us want to look for in a house and land come early this spring has been enlightening, frustrating, terrifying, and exciting. I don’t feel like we’re on the same page yet, and of course I fear that what we both want we won’t be able to afford. My husband says to just be patient, we have time on our side, and we will know when we’ve found the one. Still, I have the overwhelming desire to start fresh in every aspect of my life, including what I choose to surround myself with in my haven. Out with the old as they say. In with the meaningful I say.
And it all starts with a pretty coffee cup.
Take a look around at the stuff you use daily in your home or even in your work space. Do the things make you happy or nostalgic, or are they just utility? What would you indulge in to just make your day a little brighter? I say go for it!