Boundaries

I think one must finally take one’s life in one’s arms. -Arthur Miller

Let’s talk about boundaries…

Boundaries are those either self-proclaimed or even real limitations on what you can do mentally or physically in life.  They are the things that are holding us back from the things that we want to achieve, but some skill, some situation, some lack of resources, some thing we envision is in our way that we have to consciously strive to overcome it in order to break through.

About a year and half ago I was going through a crisis in my personal life. I was at my breaking point and needed to get the hell out of dodge to be alone and hear myself think! I emailed my boss that I was taking a personal day, tapped my fingers on the keyboard to book myself a hotel, packed a bag, said See ya Sunday, and jumped in my car and drove the four and a half hours to a literal island. I went completely off the grid for two whole days. That was the most liberating experience I think I’ve ever had. For two whole days I was only me. I wasn’t a mother, a wife, an employee, a daughter, a grad student, an anything- I was just Amanda. I made some pretty pivotal decisions for my life, my future, and my self in those two days. It changed everything!

My heart and mind are begging me to do it again. And soon. Only this time, I really don’t have a good justification for just taking off like that. I’m good…Life is good… could only be made better by a lucky power ball landing on my number. Seriously, it’s rainbows and butterflies right now… 

So why am I jumping out of my skin?! Boundaries. 

I have been writing out my lists of potential passions. One thing I keep coming back to over and over is my longing to Travel.

Ever since I was a kid I have longed to travel the world. I tried to get into the military after I graduated high school but I wasn’t able to because I had been in an accident when I was younger and medically couldn’t. I tried to get a job on a cruise ship, but I had no particular skill then or spoke any other language. So off to a year of college I went. Then off to marriage and babies I went.  All a bunch of boundaries…

Really looking at it, I am only bound by money and obligation right now. I could re-prioritize obligation, but money…well that’s a real boundary. I believe I will start saving now, even if it’s just a little bit, and set my intention to travel by myself – go completely off grid -by the end of the year. The sooner the better though, I’m itchy and twitchy!

What if you had no boundaries? Money wasn’t a problem, there were no physical limitations, nothing stands in your way! What would you do?

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23 comments

  1. Great post and good luck on saving for the travel! That is a big question of what I would do if money wasn’t a boundary. I think the quick simple answer since it has been a topic recently, would be to buy a new house or modify our existing one.

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    1. It really is a big question when you think about ‘the sky’s the limit’ huh? I wonder if we ever truly let ourselves think big, beyond our limits. I know I want to try…

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  2. Great question! I would love to be channel my inner singer-songwriter, but I have not those talents within me–just wishful thinking based on a talent I admire deeply. I think realistically (I mean as realistically as if money were no option 😊) I’d show my kids the world. I’m a nervous travel planner, but love to see new places. I just don’t want to be in charge.

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    1. I can see that-not wanting to be in charge and just being able to enjoy without the stress of logistics. Oh I bet you could tap into some poetry/lyrics just for the fun of it! You should play with that for 15 mins a day-just write down anything that comes to mind during that time. It would be fun!

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  3. I have been lucky enough to travel a little. Money is always a huge boundary for me and now it is going to become more like a wedge–as my oldest child is going to attend a private college that runs $40K per year with very little scholarship opportunity… I feel like our house is falling in around us and frequently I would like to jump ship! πŸ˜‚ But…I helped create my own boundaries, so I will stick around and help diminish them…
    Love your post-

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    1. Congratulations for your child! Yes I am trying not to let the heavy weight of student loan debt bury my pride. I do have a lot of guilt about it though -like, what did I do to us putting us in all this debt?! If you could ‘jump ship’ even for just a few days-where would you go?

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  4. Thank you-we are proud of him and it is where he needs to be-it’s a good fit, so I never want to sound resentful because I am really not. I cannot write about it in my blog because he reads it sometimes and even though he is 17, he wouldn’t understand that I was joking. We will definitely be taking out loans for him-and I will never regret that. What I regret is that we lived beyond our means for 20 years and did not plan…. Anyway, if I jumped ship, I’d run to LA!-and I actually did it last year! I just remembered! I was in the middle of a bad spell of my Seasonal Affective Disorder and Fibro and crying all the time and I got 2 friends to go with me and we went to LA and stayed for a long weekend with my cousin! It was actually a year ago Feb 6! We rented a big Mercedes SUV and I got a tattoo at Kat Von D’s LA Ink! I cannot believe I did not think of that. So there you go. I have done it and I would do it again. California makes me happy. I hate Atlanta and have for 20 years. I want to move to Nashville, though πŸ˜‰

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  5. Oh! The boundaries ! Most of mine are and were put there by myself …with the help of others yes , but still I did cooperate with them a lot πŸ˜‰
    But to have no constraints of time , money (the biggest one now) or day to day family obligations … would set me on a journey of discovery of the world – as in travel – and of myself – as in what am I really capable of doing when I’m not hiding behind “my boundaries” πŸ™‚
    Landed on this blog of yours (will travel to the other one too in a bit) after reading your answers to Cameron at “World’sBiggestFridgeMagnet” and I’m loving it πŸ˜€
    Turtle Hugs

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    1. Yes to travel the world is my ultimate dream too-there’s So much more to be seen and experienced! Thank you so much for stopping in and it’s a huge compliment to me that you like it! I’ll definitely visit you too!

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      1. Just let me tell you that I stopped in , and now I’m “travelling ” through all your back posts , and leaving likes and comments left and right:D . Sorry if it appears a bit like stalking πŸ˜‰ but I’m loving reading you πŸ™‚
        Turtle Hugs

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    1. I know that some people talk about making sure they have boundaries in their lives to help keep things in their right perspectives, but I have always seen them as barriers inhibiting me. Definitely different takes on boundaries. Thank you so much!

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