5 Reflections Valentine’s Day

So, first of all this post is unapologetically self-involved.  My friend at The Happy Soul Hub posted a very great read about loving yourself on Valentine’s Day, here, which I think everyone should give a good read.  As this household vehemently boycotts all things Valentine’s Day, I thought the exercise listed offered a fresh perspective on what this day – and dare I say every day – should be about.  I even forwarded the link to my oldest daughter, as she is a teen and overly concerned that she doesn’t have a boyfriend to celebrate this commercialized day with.  As a mother, I secretly said a prayer of thanks for that very fact, but I digress…

I decided to openly publish my list through this forum, for one to better acquaint myself with my readers, but also to show that the act of self-love in action can be hard to articulate when faced with writing it down on paper.  So here it goes:

5 Accomplishments (this one was very hard for me after finding 3)

  1. Graduating with by BA & MA while simultaneously working full-time and raising a family, and basically doing life.
  2. Survived a serious game-changer in my marriage and conquering a better than ever intimacy than we’ve ever experienced in the 15 years we’ve been married.
  3. Landing my dream job and I happen to be kicking ass and taking names so far.
  4. So far I’ve managed to raise some pretty incredible, healthy and well-adjusted little people.  We’re open, honest, emotionally and physically loving and, from their own mouths, don’t see any apparent need for therapy in their future regarding their home life.  Yes, we ask those questions – like I said we’re honest and open – and frank.
  5. I’ve lost 64 lbs. in the last 5 months.  And counting…

5 Things I’ve done for others

  1. I’ve let numerous others live in my home to help get them back on their feet.  Mostly family members and sometimes to my severe stress, but my heart was there to help.
  2. Nursed my husband back to physical and emotional health after a near-death sickness.
  3. I’ve helped several people get jobs.
  4. I’ve provided transportation for others to their jobs.  Daily or randomly, both.
  5. I’ve given many of my things to others specifically because they needed them.  Giving to Goodwill and Must Ministries NOT counted.

5 Compliments I would give myself

  1. You have great hair.
  2. You are pretty.
  3. Your ambition and drive are inspiring to others.
  4. You are a good wife and parent.
  5. You are stronger than you think.

5 Part of your personality you think are pretty cool

  1. I can be pretty funny.  According to my husband, only when I’m not trying to be.
  2. I am damn intuitive.
  3. I am a good listener.
  4. I am pretty emotionally intelligent.
  5. I have a servant nature.

5 Things I like about my body

  1. Did I mention I have great hair?
  2. I have a nice butt.
  3. I am well proportioned.
  4. My skin is nice.
  5. I have pretty feet.

Again, a very self-involved post, I know.  But the point is for you to try this exercise as well.  Write it down, really reflect on yourself.  It will help you fall in love with yourself a little more.  Happy Valentine’s Day to You and remember what The Happy Soul Hub said so well, You are your first love – don’t forget it!

PS- Featured image was painted by yours truly today for my husband for the “boycotted” V-day! 😁





  1. I love this post Amanda. I’m happy you are enjoying intimacy. It has changed a lot for me since surgery but it’s very painful now for me . I’m working through it. I love love that u reminded yourself about the great things you have going for u. We should all do that at times to remind us we are worth all the blood sweat and tears this journey brings 🙂

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    1. I’m very sorry to hear that you are having a hard time with intimacy. I hope that it works out very soon! Sometimes it is hard to see that we DO have a number of things going for us, don’t you think? Funny what writing it down brings to our realization I think- I know it was a good thing for me to do. I hope people try it out!

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    1. You know, what I really love about your post is how you tell about what you have accomplished (impressive) and the stuff you’ve done for others (impressive) and then go on to say that the thing you love most about yourself is your hair.

      It’s brilliant, because you don’t *depend* on helping others or achieving degrees and raising families while working fulltime all the time for your self-love and self-esteem.

      Since I’ve been living in other people’s homes for years and have no home for myself, I know how it makes everything really very hard on everyone if someone has to do something for others whether they like it or not, because otherwise they loose all good feelings about themselves.

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      1. Don’t get discouraged, some day you’ll have that home and be able to pay it forward to someone else in some way. Lord knows I’ve needed my fair share of support from others in a myriad of ways throughout the years! It’s funny, I hadn’t thought of any of these things on my lists until Happy Hub laid it out that we should write it down. What a great exercise! I hope you did it too! Thank you for reading, it means a lot!

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  2. Amanda, thank you so much for reading my post and for following through with my exercises.
    I was so inspired by your responses that I did the exercise myself too and found it really useful (if I do say so myself. Lol).
    I have to say though, you are one impressive lady!!! And on top of all of that, you can paint too (that’s seriously taking the mick. Lol).
    I may love myself a little more as a result of this exercise but I think you’re a superstar! You should be very proud of the person you are and all that you have achieved! Valentine’s day should always be YOUR day! 😊 xx

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    1. Wow-thank you so much, I am seriously blushing right now! Yes it was a GREAT exercise to do and am so glad you wrote it, very useful indeed! I’m excited you did it too-you should share, I would love to read it!

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